Sunday, June 11, 2006

Who thinks I'm being unreasonable?

Ah, the joys of the Internet. I can always rely on you guys to give me an honest opinion on if I'm overreacting or being completely reasonable.

Christian and I had a bit of an argument yesterday concerning a certain friend of ours, Dan. Now, Dan is a nice enough guy, except I can really only handle him in small doses. He has some habits that irk me and says and does things at times that really shit me. He also has no grasp of the concept that married people like to spend time, alone with their partner.

Dan is over at my house usually one or two nights during the week and then on the weekend he'll come round, stay at least one night and will be over at least one other time during the weekend. To make matters worse, he doesn't have a car at the moment and so he'll need to get picked up and dropped off at home and when he stays the night it's usually more convenient for him to get dropped off while we're on our way out, instead of making two trips. So he's usually here until mid-afternoon.

This weekend for example, he comes over on Friday night, stays over and then leaves about one in the arvo. Tonight (Sunday) he is coming over to watch Formula 1.
Now what made me so frustrated and, to be honest, a little pissed at this was that he had borrowed his mother's car and so didn't need to wait around for Christian to drop him home yesterday. Still he stayed, sitting in the loungeroom playing fucking playstation games, even while Christian was out working on the car.

Christian and I both work fulltime, we keep different hours so we miss each other when I've gone to bed, he's staying up and then when I get up earlier in the morning. We don't have a hell of a lot of quality time together as it is, and Dan intrudes further into that time.

Now, obviously our argument stemmed around these facts. I told Christian I was a little annoyed that Dan was over so much and I thought it was a bit odd that he spent all his spare time hanging around with a married couple. Christian found nothing odd in this and said that we could still have sex while Daniel was asleep in the morning and he couldn't see what my problem was. I said there was no way in the world I was going to have sex if Dan was asleep in our loungeroom and that Christian would just have to go without, plus it wasn't just the sex thing but just spending time together. I also asked if Dan had any other friends as he gets on my nerves.

It went on and on for a bit and I stormed out in a huff and spent the evening sulking. I guess it just points out the really obvious differences between men and women. Hopefully Christian will start telling Dan more often that he can't come round because we're busy (because God knows Dan doesn't listen to me when I tell him that - if I can't itinerise exactly what we're doing he says that we're not doing much and comes round anyway, little git).



smerk said...

I think you've got every right to be pissed off, Nettie. It does sound like Dan's hanging round a bit too much.

Mouse said...

Yup, I completely agree with you. Someone who behaved like that would drive me mad.

Hieronymus Anonymous said...

Yup, I agree with the others on this.
On the other hand, I don't think it's odd, per se, that he spends so much time around you guys, but I do think he's overstaying his welcome in a really drastic manner.

Mort said...

I agree with ythe other guys, it is a little odd that he is spending so much time at yours, especially when Christian isn't there. He should really get the hint that he might want to scale his visits down a little. Saying that if he's like me (and most other men) e probablt wouldn't get the hint at all, and then you'll have the problem of embarrassing him and maybe pissing C off. Tough options really dude! On the other hand I know what it's like when your living with your partner and you don't spend much time together. When I was with LAuren we didn't see each other much during the week because I was at work 9-5 and she worked odd hours at the hotel on recpetion so I wouldn't see her at weekends much either so it got frustrating for us both if friends regularly came round when we had free time to ourselves. One way of making him uncomfortable though would be to have LOUD sex every night, that way i'm sure he'd think twice about staying over, especially if he is single, lol!

ScarletManuka said...

Ok, that would just be weird Mort! He's my brother-in-law's brother, which makes him almost family, I'm not having loud sex when he's around!

But I do feel like I will piss of the hubby if I'm overly blunt.